Extraordinary success requires effort and focus. To be competent with the requirements means there can be no low-level thinking. Many of us are passionate and have the drive, yet also create our own mental roadblocks. These artificial and fictitious barriers get in our way of extraordinary and limitless success. What are the main reasons or causes of these mental walls and how do we break them down?
I’ve personally experienced self-sabotage, but luckily, catch it before it does any harm. I believe this comes from my humble financial beginnings and almost feeling a sense of guilt when success or income hits levels I never imagined possible. It’s your own subconscious mind telling you: “This can’t last forever” or “You don’t deserve it,” causing someone conservative to be over-conservative in the wrong areas. You don’t want to relate your past, which you could not control as a child, to your future which you certainly do control as an adult when it comes to business.
Fear of failure
Some may have failed in their career, but this is where we learn the greatest lessons that cause us to succeed. While I believe fear is always a useless word and thought, being prepared and looking ahead is important. We must plan for the worst and hope for the best. Fear of losing face or failure when success is a relevant growing pattern is simply a mental road block you’re placing on truly a limitless future. Never create something out of nothing, and be prepared to succeed by relentless hard work and execution, which will fight failure.
So what are some of the ways we can control our subconscious mind and recognize when these issues?
►Join peer groups. Surround yourself with positive people and bounce off ideas and also get input from other successful entrepreneurs and realize you share the same problems and solutions. Do not surround yourself with naysayers.
►Exercise, eat well and get a good night sleep. This will do wonders for your focus and drive, while reducing stress and anxiety, and fostering positive thinking.
►Be kind to yourself. Positive reinforcement, thinking, reading and taking breaks. Realize that you’re a badass and no one can stop you other than yourself!
►Be relentless on goals and put blinders on when executing. Be laser-focused. Know your objectives and execute on your ideas. Don’t worry or care about your competition–simply do what you need to do and focus on your company and team members’ long-term vision.
Andy W. Harris, CRMS is president and owner of Lake Oswego, Ore.-based Vantage Mortgage Group Inc. and past president of the Oregon Association of Mortgage Professionals. He may be reached by phone at (877) 496-0431, e-mail [email protected] or visit VantageMortgageGroup.com.
This article originally appeared in the December 2019 print edition of National Mortgage Professional Magazine.