Change

Change is scary and exciting, and something many of us dread.

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Change of seasons. Change of calendar year. All year long we go through change. Some of the change is no big deal, out of our hands. We deal with it like changing our clothes day to day. Unless you’re like me and hate the change from fall to Winter. Ol’ Man winter is not my friend! I want to sit outside, the sun in my face … with a good cup of coffee in 75 degrees all year long! Who’s with me?

Some change however is a big deal. Life-altering even. This could be changing jobs, a loss of a marriage, or even your kids leaving home for college. We must look at change as growth and not something super scary (even though it really is). Without the season change, would we see the change in the beautiful fall leaves or the blooming of your favorite flowers? No, we wouldn’t.

When you realize that change is necessary for growth, you look at it differently.

So how do we make change less scary? We face it and embrace it. We dive right in and get uncomfortable. We grow through what we go through! Three years ago I made a pretty significant job change. I left a part of the industry I knew like my coffee order at the local café. I went from title insurance (fireworks please) to mortgage technology. It took me weeks, and I mean weeks, to make the decision and the first several months were scary because I was afraid to fail or afraid I made a mistake. I honestly think that is why many of us stay put in certain situations, because it is comfortable and what we know! If I didn’t make that decision I wouldn’t be writing for this magazine or have met so many great people in another side of the industry, but most importantly I would have not learned all the new things! I wouldn’t have grown as a person professionally and personally. When you realize that change is necessary for growth, you look at it differently. As Wayne Dyer said, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”